April 16, 2010

how do you love?

I'm reading Eat Pray Love and stumbled across this paragraph the other night that really caught my attention. I think it sums up a lot of who I am and how I love. Its not me perfectly, but I can definitely relate to it.

"I disappear into the person I love. I am the permeable membrane. If I love you, you can have everything. You can have my time, my devotion, my ass, my money, my family, my dog, my dog's money, my dog's time - everything. If I love you, I will carry for you all your pain. I will assume for you all your debts (in every definition of the word), I will protect you from your own insecurity, I will project upon you all sorts of good qualities that you have never actually cultivated in yourself and I will buy Christmas presents for your entire family. I will give you the sun and the rain, and if they are not available, I will give you a sun check and a rain check. I will give you all this and more, until I get so exhausted and depleted that the only way I can recover my energy is by becoming infatuated with someone else." - Eat Pray Love, Elizabeth Gilbert
I definitely have boundary issues. I definitely can find myself giving too much. I did this with my now husband back when we were in college. It was a very tumultuous and crazy time for us. Now I think I am so scared of being that way again, that I overcompensate by being too selfish sometimes.

How do you love?


1 comment:

  1. I'm reading this book (finally) right now too! Loved this paragraph... and yes I can relate too :)


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